Employees are Demotivated by Ineffective Managers and Leaders

A good leadership reading material written by Dan Rockwell

89% of Employees are Demotivated by Ineffective Managers and Leaders

It might hurt, but look in the mirror if people around you are low energy slugs.

The greatest ability is the ability to develop abilities.

98% of employees who have good leaders are motivated to do their best. Only 11% of employees with ineffective managers felt motivated to give their best.*

The magic question:

Improvement stops when people believe they’ve reached the level of “acceptable” performance.

Challenge people to reach for the next level by asking a simple question.

 

“How do we take this to the next level?”

I’ve been asking teams this question. It works.

7 keys to reaching the next level:
1.Paint a picture of the next level. “What might the next level look like?”
2.Ask, “What might you do to take your performance to the next level?” Identify three or four possible behaviors.
3.Create focus before performance.  •“What do you plan to do?”
•“What’s important?”

4.Give pep talks before performance.  •“You got this.”
•“I know you can do this.”
•“I know you’re going to do even better than last time.”

5.Provide immediate feedback after performance.  •“You looked down when you were thinking. You lost me.”
•“You wandered at the end of the meeting. How might you end better next time?”
•“You seemed resistant when you kept asking the same question. How might you practice greater openness?”

6.Appreciate improvement. “You paused and lowered your voice before the main point of your presentation.That really worked.” The Boston Consulting Group reports that the number one factor in employee happiness is appreciation for their work.
7.Clarify reasons for success.  •“What did you do differently?”
•“What did you do this time that you need to keep doing?”

How might leaders bring out the best in others? In teams?

Tip: You never get to the next level by repeating the past.

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For now…

My soul made love to your soul long before
our bodies met. When i first laid my eyes on you
I recognized you….

You held my future in your hand

I choose to love you in Silence
For in my silence I find no rejection

I choose to love you in my loneliness no one
owns you but I

I choose to adore you from a distance
From distance shields us both from pain

I choose to imprison you in my thoughts
cause in my thoughts, freedom is for me to decide

I choose to kiss you on the wind for the
wind is gentler than my lips

I choose to hold you only in my dreams
For in my dreams there is no end

But one day….

I will embrace reality to spend the rest of
my life with you and only you..

AKWPE

 

Despacito

“When you write songs, you have to put a face to the lyric a little bit, but it was such a sexy song that there wasn’t really a person. It was a scenario more than a person. “

 

“Despacito” is about a sexual but romantic relationship between two people. The Spanish word “despacito” translates to “slowly”—which indicates the romance in the relationship

Trivia:

The singer/writer – Luis Alfonso Rodríguez López-Cepero, or Luis Fonsi, born April 15, 1978, is a Puerto Rican singer. He says, “When you write songs, you have to put a face to the lyric a little bit, but it was such a sexy song that there wasn’t really a person. It was a scenario more than a person. I went there. I went to that place, and that place was in a club somewhere, when you get to a club and you just start making that eye contact with this beautiful girl. And that’s kind of how the song starts. It’s really a story. In the beginning of the lyric it says, “Hey, I notice that you’re looking at me. I’m looking at you. Let’s connect.” It kindda goes little by little until it gets to the chorus, where it goes, “All right. We’re here, but now, let’s enjoy the moment.”  That’s kind of what this song is all about, enjoying the moment, not rushing through it. Myself and my
co-writer, we were both there sort of in mind in this scenario of this real sexy place, but there really wasn’t a face to it.

DESPACITO

Comin’ over in my direction
So thankful for that, it’s such a blessin’, yeah
Turn every situation into heaven, yeah
Oh-oh, you are
My sunrise on the darkest day
Got me feelin’ some kind of way
Make me wanna savor every moment slowly, slowly
You fit me tailor-made, love how you put it on
Got the only key, know how to turn it on
The way you nibble on my ear, the only words I wanna hear
Baby, take it slow so we can last long

¡Oh!
Tú, tú eres el imán y yo soy el metal
Me voy acercando y voy armando el plan
Sólo con pensarlo se acelera el pulso (oh yeah)
Ya, ya me está gustando más de lo normal
Todos mis sentidos van pidiendo más
Esto hay que tomarlo sin ningún apuro

Despacito
Quiero respirar tu cuello despacito
Deja que te diga cosas al oído
Para que te acuerdes si no estás conmigo
Despacito
Quiero desnudarte a besos despacito
Firmo en las paredes de tu laberinto
Y hacer de tu cuerpo todo un manuscrito
(Sube, sube, sube
Sube, sube)

Quiero ver bailar tu pelo, quiero ser tu ritmo (woah, woah)
Que le enseñes a mi boca (woah, woah)
Tus lugares favoritos (favorito, favorito, baby)
Déjame sobrepasar tus zonas de peligro (woah, woah)
Hasta provocar tus gritos (woah, woah)
Y que olvides tu apellido

 

Si te pido un beso, ven, dámelo, yo sé que estás pensándolo
Llevo tiempo intentándolo, mami, esto es dando y dándolo
Sabes que tu corazón conmigo te hace bang-bang
Sabes que esa beba está buscando de mi bang-bang
Ven, prueba de mi boca para ver cómo te sabe
Quiero, quiero, quiero ver cuánto amor a ti te cabe
Yo no tengo prisa, yo me quiero dar el viaje
Empecemos lento, después salvaje

Pasito a pasito, suave suavecito
Nos vamos pegando, poquito a poquito
Cuando tú me besas con esa destreza
Veo que eres malicia con delicadeza
Pasito a pasito, suave suavecito
Nos vamos pegando, poquito a poquito
Y es que esa belleza es un rompecabezas
Pero pa’ montarlo aquí tengo la pieza
¡Oye!

Despacito
Quiero respirar tu cuello despacito
Deja que te diga cosas al oído
Para que te acuerdes si no estás conmigo
Despacito
Quiero desnudarte a besos despacito
Firmo en las paredes de tu laberinto
Y hacer de tu cuerpo todo un manuscrito
(Sube, sube, sube
Sube, sube)

Quiero ver bailar tu pelo, quiero ser tu ritmo (woah, woah)
Que le enseñes a mi boca (woah, woah)
Tus lugares favoritos (favorito, favorito, baby)
Déjame sobrepasar tus zonas de peligro (woah, woah)
Hasta provocar tus gritos (woah, woah)
Y que olvides tu apellido

Despacito
This is how we do it down in Puerto Rico
I just wanna hear you screaming, “¡Ay, Bendito!”
I can move forever cuando esté contigo
¡Bailalo!

Pasito a pasito, suave suavecito
Nos vamos pegando, poquito a poquito
Que le enseñes a mi boca
Tus lugares favoritos
(Favorito, favorito, baby)
Pasito a pasito, suave suavecito
Nos vamos pegando, poquito a poquito
Hasta provocar tus gritos (Fonsi)
Y que olvides tu apellido (D.Y.)
Despacito

Disclaimer:  This song recently rocks my morning and night. Yes, a little liberated to what  I am used to and reminds me the movie “Dirty Dancing” but I can’t help but dance with the tune- there is a different kind of energy when you hear that song – I agree now with Nianna.  I was so curious about the song and my Puerto Rican blood tells me to do a little research. And  I was surprised to know that it was all in the imagination of the writer and singer – that person does not exists at all. I simply enjoyed the music. I guess Pipay has now a new taste of music genre 🙂  and I won’t mind dancing it with my future partner – part of the change and perspective.  You better be ready to dance it with me .

LIFE IS LIKE A CUP OF COFFEE

#Reunions

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: “If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups have been taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups… And then you began eyeing each other’s cups.

Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live.

Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Savor the coffee, not the cups!

The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. 


Live simply. 
Love generously. 
Care deeply. 
Speak kindly. 

 

-Bridgette

I miss you

 

I miss you in the morning
And when the sunset fades away,
The ache within my heart- to know were miles away
And it just will not go away

My heart fills with love for you
When I think how much you can be that caring person
As I relive all the happiness
and the joy  felt when I  shared it with you

You’re with me in every moment ( I am alone)
And in every move I make ( with you )
Lie the memories I have for you
That I will never forsake

For now I will keep you where it is safe in my heart, in my thoughts in my prayer…

 

#AKWPE

How to stop obsessing with the negatives and become a positive leader

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via How to Stop Obsessing Over Negatives and Become a Positive Leader — Leadership Freak

Butterfly and Kisses

For butterfly kisses after bedtime prayer;
sticking little white flowers all up in her hair;
Walk beside the pony, Daddy, it’s my first ride.”
“I know the cake looks funny, Daddy, but I sure tried.”
Oh, with all that I’ve done wrong, I must have done something right
To deserve a hug every morning And butterfly kisses at night.

Butterfly kisses after bedtime prayer;
sticking little white flowers all up in her hair.
“You know how much I love you, Daddy,
But if you don’t mind I’m only gonna kiss you on the cheek this time.”
Oh with all that I’ve done wrong I must have done something right
to deserve her love every morning and butterfly kisses at night.

Happy Father’s Day Daddy!

 

Sending hugs and kisses to the moon and back.