How to take charge of Leadership Trajectory today?

Growth isn’t an accident. We grow on purpose or not at all.

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Take charge:

Short-sighted leaders are too concerned about being in charge of others. Take charge of your own development.

Developing your own leadership is tougher than helping others develop theirs.

Change trajectory by choosing a neglected leadership behavior to practice. After you choose, narrow your focus. Don’t change everything. Change one thing.

 

Daily nudges are better than weekly leaps.

Affirm character.

Take charge of your trajectory by rising  above ambiguous “Good job” affirmations, for example. Affirm character. Notice initiative, transparency, candor, or grit.

 

An affirming statement begins, “I noticed.”
1.I notice that you’re committed to the best interest of your colleagues.
2.I notice that you’re great at working on your own.
3.I notice that you practice forward-facing curiosity.

Even higher:

Take affirmations to the next level by connecting them to business objectives. “I notice that you’re committed to the best interests of your colleagues. That’s going to serve you well when you challenge people to reach higher.”

Face discomfort:

Perhaps you’re uncomfortable affirming character.

 

Discomfort with a leadership practice indicates it’s an important stretch for you.

It’s scary to shift mindsets.

You might be so controlled by negatives that the thought of looking for positives seems out of place.

We neglect things so long that they feel awkward when we re-engage with them. That’s the reason to lean in.

A little discomfort indicates growth. Sticking with comfortable behaviors indicates stagnation.

Affirmation walk-about:

Give yourself permission to walk around once a day affirming the character of your teammates

Affirmations are elevators.

Focusing on what’s wrong is one reason there’s a dark cloud over your department. Circling problems is one reason they persist.

How might leaders take charge of their leadership trajectory?

Dan Rockwell/ Leadership Freak

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The Climb

#LSS#Battlesong

I can almost see it.
That dream I’m dreaming,
But there’s a voice inside my head saying,
“You’ll never reach it.”
Every step I’m takin’
Every move I make feels lost with no direction,
My faith is shakin’

But I, I gotta keep tryin’
Gotta keep my head held high

There’s always gonna be another mountain
I’m always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an uphill battle
Sometimes I’m gonna have to lose
Ain’t about how fast I get there
Ain’t about what’s waitin’ on the other side
It’s the climb

The struggles I’m facing
The chances I’m taking
Sometimes might knock me down,
But no, I’m not breaking
I may not know it,
But these are the moments
That I’m gonna remember most, yeah
Just gotta keep goin’,

8 years and still counting

Our family chain is broken
and nothing seems the same
but as God calls us one by one
the chain will link again

“You left us peaceful memories
your love is still our guide
and though we cannot see you
you are always at our side”

 

August 27, 2009

One of the most memorable day in our lives- yun na din pala ang huling celebration natin ng anniversary nyo ni Mommy. I would never forget na pinakanta mo si ann sa videoke till 1am- parang ayaw mo ng matulog- ayaw mo matapos ang araw na iyon. Nag rereklamo na si mommy pero hyper kami pareho ni ann at game makipag kantahan pa sayo. Then before pa tayo matulog- bigla mo ako tinanong bakit di pa kami mag pakasal ng bf ko that time. Nagulat ako kasi- alam ko ayaw mo pa ako mag asawa noon. Pero suddenly you wanted me to do it. Sabi mo- iba pa din ang may kapartner sa buhay dahil hindi magtatagal iiwan nyo din kami ni mommy. It was weird conversation- pero since palabiro ako – dinaan ko nlng sa biro din. Sabi ko sayo- I can’t find na sing gwapo mo para pakasalan ko. And I rest assure you that I ll be fine even I am alone, even i don’t have a partner . I didn’t realized- hudyat na pala un nag pag papaalam mo. And you know Dad- its been 8 years and nothing changed. I am still the tough lady you left, still single and unmarried. Pinatapang lalo ako ng panahon mula ng iniwan mo kami. Many times nalulungkot but mostly because we missed you badly. Ang hirap since you’ve left us. It’s like being more responsible for our family. May times natatakot ako- making big decisions especially sa restoration ng bahay but good thing – lahat ng tinuro mo at natutunan ko sa kurso nagagamit ko sa ngaun. My life changed deliberately since you left. I learned  the hard way- pati sa pagpili ng kaibigan and how to manage our time.

Sabi nila- makakalimot din kami- makaka move on- maybe yes- na accept na naming wala kana pero un pain and struggle ng wala ka Ama to turn to still makes us sad most of the time. Dasal nalang namin ikaw pede makasama- minsan sa panaginip. No matter how hard we tried to make our family happy sa mga okasyon but still- at the end of the day- may lungkot pa din- na miss ka namin ni mami at anna. Life was never been the same without you. Maybe we have the four solid years with you since you retired from Saudi. Akala nila madali, akala ng iba habang tumatagal makakalimutan na- pero in reality not- habang tumatagal lalong sumasakit . Hindi mababago ng pag kawala mo ang lungkot sa tuwing may achievements kami sa career and you are not there anymore to sahre it with. Lalo na po ngaun nasa Nestle ako, marami pag kakataon gusto ko ibalita sayo ang mga bagay na naaachieve ko in little time that i was a part of that organization. Siguro if buhay ka, you will be proud of me at malamang mas madalas hatid at sundo mo ako plus may road trip pa tayo.  Yung mga biglaan lakad ng family where you are the leader of h pack, Yung panonood natin sa bahay pag weekends, yung alalay ko sa pag luluto tuwing may okasyon sa family, Ang kasama ko mag canvass ng mga pede pa gawin to improve our house. Ang meron Ama makakausap para mag bigay ng payo pag dumarating ang sandali napapag hinaan kami sa buhay. Ngaun dasal at sa mga libro iniwan mo ako nakasandal. I guess makakasanayan na lang. I still keep on praying for that one day- everything will be just ok.

Daddy- akala ko nga sinusundo mo na ako noong August 15 eh- after ng first day of Training ko sa BOSH, i missed you then so much especially during the lectures ng EE and ME, lahat ng naituro doon , you have practically taught me pag may ginagawa ka sa bahay at ako ang alalay mo, maybe i was too emotional then and I almost have the same case as yours. Pero nag dasal ako sa Ama wag muna- kailangan pa ko ni mommy at anna. I am not afraid to die anymore unlike noon. Kasi alam ko Ikaw ang susundo sa akin diba? promised mo yun . For now Daddy- please watch over me- pls continue to guide me sa major decisions that I will make for our family. Ikaw lang nakaka alam ng ugali ko. Alam mo pag nag daramdam ako,pag napapagod na ko. Sana Dad magampanan ko pa un mga bilin mo- mga bagay na di mo natapos . Mahirap pero nagagawa ko mag pakatatag pa para kay mommy at mga kapatid ko.

At kung may darating man- I guide mo po ako,  bigyan mo po ako ng blessings  na wag ako mag kamali sa pag pili ng pag kakatiwalaan ko ng puso ko. I guide nyo po ako ng Ama – sa mga darating pa araw ng buhay ko.

God pawiin nyo sana mga lungkot namin sa tuwing ma miss namin si Daddy. Sa mga sandali kailangan namin ng guidance sa buhay. Gabayan nyo po ang bawat isa sa amin na maging matuwid sa pamumuhay. naway balang araw- sa pag katapos ng aming takbuhin pag bubuklurin mo po kami na mag kakasama muli sa bayang banal.

Daddy,  will always be the big star I look up at every night.

I missed you so much Honey pop –

your little star,

Pipay

August 27, 2017- Diary Journal/ 02:39am

 

 

 

 

T.O.T.G.A. ( the one that got away )

I saw your picture last week – out of the blue natyempuhan lumabas picture mo sa news feed ko. Matagal na panahon din di kita hindi napapansin- siguro dahil I don’t follow you for quite long years – maybe it was for the best. I don’t know

Ang alam ko lang  I have hurted you, I did not give ourselves a chance and hindi ako sumunod sa bansa pinuntahan mo. I know I was the one who started to drag you to go there pero nauna kapa and I was too afraid to take the risk then. I was already comfortable being with you- pero natakot padin ako sumugal. I thought you have no plans in life- pero I was wrong. I saw you have changed a lot. North America changed you , I guess. Mas confident kana at may mas maganda direction sa buhay, looking at you now with your wife and baby. I knew then you were someone that got away.

We  had a good friendship but that time,  I commit myself with someone whom I  thought would give me the one that I am looking for. Sorry, if I hurted your feelings, sorry if I didn’t give ours a chance. But I am thankful pa din kay God for He gave you a good and wonderful wife. Someone who will take care of you. Someone you could finally say ,” My family”. Alam ko hindi madali maulila sa mga magulang.  Hindi mo lang alam- nakikinig ako lagi sa mga kwento mo, sa mga jokes mo. Di lang halata pero naaliw na ko sayo noon. Noong bago ka palang sa Canada. Madalas ko silipin ang mga post mo, gusto kita kamustahin pero mas minabuti ko wag ka. Masaya na ko makita ka- kung san san parte ng Canada kana napunta. Tinupad mo naman ang pangako mo- you posted all the wonderful places you have been. Masaya nako makita ka nag eenjoy sa journey mo. I stop following you then one day nabalitaan ko  you already have a girlfriend. Alam ko naman one day mahahanap mo din un pag mamahal na you deserve. Dahil hindi ka naman mahirap mahalin.

Salamat sa pag hanga at pag mamahal. Salamat nakita mo ako- yung ako na may sarili mundo sa corner ng office,yung simple tao sa department natin, yung tao laging naka earphone lang eh ok na. Kahit saglit lang un pag kakataon makilala kita – it was one of the good memories I have in my younger years. Our endless chat while working on night shift. I should have listen to you – niloko nga lang ako . Pero ok lang- charge to life experience. Sino ba naman makakalimot sayo eh madalas tayo mag partner sa night shift mag mula sa BGC to Pasig tayo na mag kasama. Ayaw ko isipin sinusundan mo ako- pero natutuwa ako sumusunod ka sa bawat site na mapuntahan ko. Masarap ka naman kausap at kasama but I miscalculate your maturity.  Mas malalim ka pala sa inakala ko. Ang wide ng nalalaman mo- mapa politics, NBA basketball, movies at real life stories – you have something to say. I guess you found my weakness to have someone smart to talk to.

You didn’t know , pero minahal kita sa paraan alam ko. Hindi naman ako basta basta sasama sayo to have dinner if you’re not important to me that time. Kilala mo naman ako sa simula palang eh suplada at mataray na ako. Maybe the timing was really off. But I am happy at one point in my life our path crossed at nakilala at nakasama kita. Sana napatawad mo na ako, I didn’t friend zone you, minahal  kita- di ko lang nasabi sayo, now you know. I will always wish and pray the best for you and your family. Stay happy always

SBN

Employees are Demotivated by Ineffective Managers and Leaders

A good leadership reading material written by Dan Rockwell

89% of Employees are Demotivated by Ineffective Managers and Leaders

It might hurt, but look in the mirror if people around you are low energy slugs.

The greatest ability is the ability to develop abilities.

98% of employees who have good leaders are motivated to do their best. Only 11% of employees with ineffective managers felt motivated to give their best.*

The magic question:

Improvement stops when people believe they’ve reached the level of “acceptable” performance.

Challenge people to reach for the next level by asking a simple question.

 

“How do we take this to the next level?”

I’ve been asking teams this question. It works.

7 keys to reaching the next level:
1.Paint a picture of the next level. “What might the next level look like?”
2.Ask, “What might you do to take your performance to the next level?” Identify three or four possible behaviors.
3.Create focus before performance.  •“What do you plan to do?”
•“What’s important?”

4.Give pep talks before performance.  •“You got this.”
•“I know you can do this.”
•“I know you’re going to do even better than last time.”

5.Provide immediate feedback after performance.  •“You looked down when you were thinking. You lost me.”
•“You wandered at the end of the meeting. How might you end better next time?”
•“You seemed resistant when you kept asking the same question. How might you practice greater openness?”

6.Appreciate improvement. “You paused and lowered your voice before the main point of your presentation.That really worked.” The Boston Consulting Group reports that the number one factor in employee happiness is appreciation for their work.
7.Clarify reasons for success.  •“What did you do differently?”
•“What did you do this time that you need to keep doing?”

How might leaders bring out the best in others? In teams?

Tip: You never get to the next level by repeating the past.

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For now…

My soul made love to your soul long before
our bodies met. When i first laid my eyes on you
I recognized you….

You held my future in your hand

I choose to love you in Silence
For in my silence I find no rejection

I choose to love you in my loneliness no one
owns you but I

I choose to adore you from a distance
From distance shields us both from pain

I choose to imprison you in my thoughts
cause in my thoughts, freedom is for me to decide

I choose to kiss you on the wind for the
wind is gentler than my lips

I choose to hold you only in my dreams
For in my dreams there is no end

But one day….

I will embrace reality to spend the rest of
my life with you and only you..

AKWPE