Justice League in Business World

I decided to begin the presentation, “Thank you for being heroes.” But, when I began I said the opposite. It was dark while I drove to the hotel. I was scheduled to give a presentation to school teachers and administrators the next afternoon. In the dark, faces of teachers I hadn’t thought of for years […]

via How to Embrace Your Nobility and Lead with Dignity — Leadership Freak


In case you didn’t know…

I can’t count the times
I almost said what’s on my mind
But I didn’t
Just the other day
I wrote down all the things I’d say
But I couldn’t
I just couldn’t
Baby I know that you’ve been wondering
Mmm, so here goes nothing

In case you didn’t know
Baby I’m crazy ’bout you
And I would be lying if I said
That I could live this life without you
Even though I don’t tell you all the time
You had my heart a long, long time ago
In case you didn’t know

How much I had loved you

Na miss kita..


On the day I die….

Don’t miss the chance to dance with them while you can.
It’s easy to waste so much daylight in the days before you die.
Don’t let your life be stolen every day by all that you believe matters, because on the day you die, much of it simply won’t.

On the day I die a lot will happen.
A lot will change.
The world will be busy.

On the day I die, all the important appointments I made will be left unattended.
The many plans I had yet to complete will remain forever undone.
The calendar that ruled so many of my days will now be irrelevant to me.
All the material things I so chased and guarded and treasured will be left in the hands of others to care for or to discard.

The words of my critics which so burdened me will cease to sting or capture anymore. They will be unable to touch me.
The arguments I believed I’d won here will not serve me or bring me any satisfaction or solace.
All my noisy incoming notifications and texts and calls will go unanswered. Their great urgency will be quieted.

My many nagging regrets will all be resigned to the past, where they should have always been anyway.
Every superficial worry about my body that I ever labored over; about my waistline or hairline or frown lines, will fade away.
My carefully crafted image, the one I worked so hard to shape for others here, will be left to them to complete anyway.
The sterling reputation I once struggled so greatly to maintain will be of little concern for me anymore.

All the small and large anxieties that stole sleep from me each night will be rendered powerless.
The deep and towering mysteries about life and death that so consumed my mind will finally be clarified in a way that they could never be before while I lived.
These things will certainly all be true on the day that I die.

Yet for as much as will happen on that day, one more thing that will happen.
On the day I die, the few people who really know and truly love me will grieve deeply.
They will feel a void.
They will feel cheated.
They will not feel ready.
They will feel as though a part of them has died as well.
And on that day, more than anything in the world they will want more time with me.
I know this from those I love and grieve over.

And so knowing this, while I am still alive I’ll try to remember that my time with them is finite and fleeting and so very precious—and I’ll do my best not to waste a second of it.

I’ll try not to squander a priceless moment worrying about all the other things that will happen on the day I die, because many of those things are either not my concern or beyond my control.

Friends, those other things have an insidious way of keeping you from living even as you live; vying for your attention, competing for your affections.
They rob you of the joy of this unrepeatable, uncontainable, ever-evaporating Now with those who love you and want only to share it with you.

Don’t miss the chance to dance with them while you can.
It’s easy to waste so much daylight in the days before you die.
Don’t let your life be stolen every day by all that you believe matters, because on the day you die, much of it simply won’t.

Yes, you and I will die one day.
But before that day comes: let us live..

~ John Pavlovitz

How to take charge of Leadership Trajectory today?

Growth isn’t an accident. We grow on purpose or not at all.

Take charge:

Short-sighted leaders are too concerned about being in charge of others. Take charge of your own development.

Developing your own leadership is tougher than helping others develop theirs.

Change trajectory by choosing a neglected leadership behavior to practice. After you choose, narrow your focus. Don’t change everything. Change one thing.


Daily nudges are better than weekly leaps.

Affirm character.

Take charge of your trajectory by rising  above ambiguous “Good job” affirmations, for example. Affirm character. Notice initiative, transparency, candor, or grit.


An affirming statement begins, “I noticed.”
1.I notice that you’re committed to the best interest of your colleagues.
2.I notice that you’re great at working on your own.
3.I notice that you practice forward-facing curiosity.

Even higher:

Take affirmations to the next level by connecting them to business objectives. “I notice that you’re committed to the best interests of your colleagues. That’s going to serve you well when you challenge people to reach higher.”

Face discomfort:

Perhaps you’re uncomfortable affirming character.


Discomfort with a leadership practice indicates it’s an important stretch for you.

It’s scary to shift mindsets.

You might be so controlled by negatives that the thought of looking for positives seems out of place.

We neglect things so long that they feel awkward when we re-engage with them. That’s the reason to lean in.

A little discomfort indicates growth. Sticking with comfortable behaviors indicates stagnation.

Affirmation walk-about:

Give yourself permission to walk around once a day affirming the character of your teammates

Affirmations are elevators.

Focusing on what’s wrong is one reason there’s a dark cloud over your department. Circling problems is one reason they persist.

How might leaders take charge of their leadership trajectory?

Dan Rockwell/ Leadership Freak


The Climb


I can almost see it.
That dream I’m dreaming,
But there’s a voice inside my head saying,
“You’ll never reach it.”
Every step I’m takin’
Every move I make feels lost with no direction,
My faith is shakin’

But I, I gotta keep tryin’
Gotta keep my head held high

There’s always gonna be another mountain
I’m always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an uphill battle
Sometimes I’m gonna have to lose
Ain’t about how fast I get there
Ain’t about what’s waitin’ on the other side
It’s the climb

The struggles I’m facing
The chances I’m taking
Sometimes might knock me down,
But no, I’m not breaking
I may not know it,
But these are the moments
That I’m gonna remember most, yeah
Just gotta keep goin’,

8 years and still counting

Our family chain is broken
and nothing seems the same
but as God calls us one by one
the chain will link again

“You left us peaceful memories
your love is still our guide
and though we cannot see you
you are always at our side”


August 27, 2009

One of the most memorable day in our lives- yun na din pala ang huling celebration natin ng anniversary nyo ni Mommy. I would never forget na pinakanta mo si ann sa videoke till 1am- parang ayaw mo ng matulog- ayaw mo matapos ang araw na iyon. Nag rereklamo na si mommy pero hyper kami pareho ni ann at game makipag kantahan pa sayo. Then before pa tayo matulog- bigla mo ako tinanong bakit di pa kami mag pakasal ng bf ko that time. Nagulat ako kasi- alam ko ayaw mo pa ako mag asawa noon. Pero suddenly you wanted me to do it. Sabi mo- iba pa din ang may kapartner sa buhay dahil hindi magtatagal iiwan nyo din kami ni mommy. It was weird conversation- pero since palabiro ako – dinaan ko nlng sa biro din. Sabi ko sayo- I can’t find na sing gwapo mo para pakasalan ko. And I rest assure you that I ll be fine even I am alone, even i don’t have a partner . I didn’t realized- hudyat na pala un nag pag papaalam mo. And you know Dad- its been 8 years and nothing changed. I am still the tough lady you left, still single and unmarried. Pinatapang lalo ako ng panahon mula ng iniwan mo kami. Many times nalulungkot but mostly because we missed you badly. Ang hirap since you’ve left us. It’s like being more responsible for our family. May times natatakot ako- making big decisions especially sa restoration ng bahay but good thing – lahat ng tinuro mo at natutunan ko sa kurso nagagamit ko sa ngaun. My life changed deliberately since you left. I learned  the hard way- pati sa pagpili ng kaibigan and how to manage our time.

Sabi nila- makakalimot din kami- makaka move on- maybe yes- na accept na naming wala kana pero un pain and struggle ng wala ka Ama to turn to still makes us sad most of the time. Dasal nalang namin ikaw pede makasama- minsan sa panaginip. No matter how hard we tried to make our family happy sa mga okasyon but still- at the end of the day- may lungkot pa din- na miss ka namin ni mami at anna. Life was never been the same without you. Maybe we have the four solid years with you since you retired from Saudi. Akala nila madali, akala ng iba habang tumatagal makakalimutan na- pero in reality not- habang tumatagal lalong sumasakit . Hindi mababago ng pag kawala mo ang lungkot sa tuwing may achievements kami sa career and you are not there anymore to sahre it with. Lalo na po ngaun nasa Nestle ako, marami pag kakataon gusto ko ibalita sayo ang mga bagay na naaachieve ko in little time that i was a part of that organization. Siguro if buhay ka, you will be proud of me at malamang mas madalas hatid at sundo mo ako plus may road trip pa tayo.  Yung mga biglaan lakad ng family where you are the leader of h pack, Yung panonood natin sa bahay pag weekends, yung alalay ko sa pag luluto tuwing may okasyon sa family, Ang kasama ko mag canvass ng mga pede pa gawin to improve our house. Ang meron Ama makakausap para mag bigay ng payo pag dumarating ang sandali napapag hinaan kami sa buhay. Ngaun dasal at sa mga libro iniwan mo ako nakasandal. I guess makakasanayan na lang. I still keep on praying for that one day- everything will be just ok.

Daddy- akala ko nga sinusundo mo na ako noong August 15 eh- after ng first day of Training ko sa BOSH, i missed you then so much especially during the lectures ng EE and ME, lahat ng naituro doon , you have practically taught me pag may ginagawa ka sa bahay at ako ang alalay mo, maybe i was too emotional then and I almost have the same case as yours. Pero nag dasal ako sa Ama wag muna- kailangan pa ko ni mommy at anna. I am not afraid to die anymore unlike noon. Kasi alam ko Ikaw ang susundo sa akin diba? promised mo yun . For now Daddy- please watch over me- pls continue to guide me sa major decisions that I will make for our family. Ikaw lang nakaka alam ng ugali ko. Alam mo pag nag daramdam ako,pag napapagod na ko. Sana Dad magampanan ko pa un mga bilin mo- mga bagay na di mo natapos . Mahirap pero nagagawa ko mag pakatatag pa para kay mommy at mga kapatid ko.

At kung may darating man- I guide mo po ako,  bigyan mo po ako ng blessings  na wag ako mag kamali sa pag pili ng pag kakatiwalaan ko ng puso ko. I guide nyo po ako ng Ama – sa mga darating pa araw ng buhay ko.

God pawiin nyo sana mga lungkot namin sa tuwing ma miss namin si Daddy. Sa mga sandali kailangan namin ng guidance sa buhay. Gabayan nyo po ang bawat isa sa amin na maging matuwid sa pamumuhay. naway balang araw- sa pag katapos ng aming takbuhin pag bubuklurin mo po kami na mag kakasama muli sa bayang banal.

Daddy,  will always be the big star I look up at every night.

I missed you so much Honey pop –

your little star,


August 27, 2017- Diary Journal/ 02:39am